Jake,
Try the search function of this site for a specific subject. It works well for subjects that have been brought up before.
Eric has covered it nicely. The other aspects of where you would like the fairlead depends on the amount of resolution to the movement you would like have vs maximum sheet out. The further back you are and still have full sheet out ability the smaller increments to the sheetline in movement.
It depends on the model RMG winch you have and the number of max turms available, and to some extent the design of the drum, what your max winch line travel will be to start. In the old days we fought for 15-3/4". Now we can get well over that with the 280DL and EL to the point we have to set the max sheet out point short of its ability with the TX.
Any of the numbers you mentions during your observations will work if you have a 280 series. There is not a "better" location but that which will work for you. If we did have one, all would be on it
I favor the 45" and the boom attach point directly over the fairlead because I am still within the max sheetline range. I take all I can get and with the DL model and lost the battle and had to shorten up the TX.
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